Today, I’m writing from the comfort of my family home in California. I’ve been re-interfacing with old friends and cousins, catching up on the last year or so. I’ve noticed so many ways people have changed. And in some ways, have not. Some are visiting home from across the country, others moved back to the same area or have been living with their family for years.
Nonetheless, I see these people change. More importantly, it’s not just from experiences and education in which has changed them; they have changed with the changes in their support system. After all, you ARE the average the five most important people in your life.
As I have been living on my own for a little bit now, I’ve realized how important it is to choose your friends. They have direct effect on who you are and what is important to you.
Your friends are contagious. From the types of activities you engage in to the types of subjects you talk about at happy hour, it’s sufficient to say that they play a huge part in helping you make sense of the world. Friends complement you in the most important ways- in the shared experiences from different perspectives.
Just like in relationships, each are respected. Friends engage with you in ways in which challenge your clarity of thought. You have clear boundaries where you end and the others begin- you relate and you disagree. You feel conflicted and you have the space to say so. It’s not about being big or small in your circle, it’s about being humbled by each person who listens to you.
Surround yourself with people who inspire you.
Stick with the people who pull the magic out of you and not the madness.